If you’re pressed for time or just want to try something different, schedule sex with your partner. Pick a time in the future and pencil each other in.
Don’t just set it and forget it, though. Spend the days leading up to your rendezvous planning out everything you’ll do when the moment finally arrives.
You can talk in person, sext, or do it over the phone. The important thing is to build excitement in both partners for what comes next. This is a great way to start incorporating those new kinks in, too.
The idea is to build up your arousal so that when it’s time to perform, you won’t have any trouble getting hard. It’s much easier than spur-of-the-moment, “get hard quick or it’s not happening” sex.
Boost the Connection with Your Partner
Sometimes the reason why you don’t have a hard penis is because the rest of you isn’t feeling connected to your partner.
You could be angry with them, feeling judged, or there may just be a little distance in the relationship. It’s totally normal – but it can also spell disaster for your lovemaking.
If this sounds familiar, you should try to reconnect with your partner as soon as possible. It may be something as simple as a date night, or it could mean couple’s counseling for more entrenched issues.
Whatever you need to do is totally worth it, though. Not only will this likely bring your erection back to life, it can electrify everything in the bedroom – and oh yeah, the rest of your relationship will improve too.
Consider Trying Someone New
Sometimes your mojo fails because the relationship is failing. If you’re not into your partner and you don’t think you can get the attraction back, you may want to consider a change.
The good news is, once you find someone you connect with, your body should start responding the way it used to.
6. Get a Secret Weapon
All of the techniques above can help you get your libido back on track, but sometimes, you need a little extra “oomph.”
If that’s the case, you may need some pharmaceutical help. ED pills like Viagra and Cialis (or their generic equivalents like Bluechew) can help you get hard in a hurry.
It’s nothing to be ashamed of, and using them is incredibly common, even among younger guys. In fact, it’s easier than ever to get your hands on some little blue help – and you don’t even need to have an embarrassing conversation with your doctor.
These companies allow you to have your medical information reviewed by a doctor, who will then write you a prescription for the medication you need. You don’t even have to leave your house.
While it’s undoubtedly convenient to buy an inexpensive pill that lets you get erections on demand, I’d recommend it as a last resort. Try the natural options listed above first.
If they don’t work, then you can try BlueChew or a similar service. But it’s always better to try to fix things yourself before taking the pharmaceutical route.
By using the strategies above, you can finally learn the art of becoming erect on command. It may not be easy, but I can guarantee that it’s worth it (and my girlfriend definitely agrees).
Or you can keep rolling the dice and hoping that everything works out. Personally, I prefer to be confident, even if I have to do a little hard work to earn that confidence first.
You might want to consider trying meditation instead. It’s free, easy, and calming, and you can do it anywhere – kind of like sex!